Lana Blakely
Lana Blakely
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Red Flags, Icks, and Toxic Traits… Is Dating Doomed?
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Chapters:
00:14 - Icks
01:45 My first time getting the ick
02:38 - The psychology of icks
02:51 - The evolutionary perspective
04:22 - The attachment style perspective
05:30 - The having different values perspective
06:33 - The it’s complex perspective
07:19 - What to do when you experience the ick
07:47 - You don’t have to go through it alone
09:42 - Red flags
09:44 - What’s a red flag?
10:30 - Breaking down a common red flag
11:48 - An example from my life
12:47 - Calling you out
14:05 - Have red flags gone too far?
15:15 - Gaslighting
15:17 - What is gaslighting?
15:30 - What it can look like
18:20 - Scenario example
19:26 - Not necessarily a red flag
Find me everywhere: biosites.com/lanablakely
My podcast ⟶ geni.us/lanablakelypod
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What I use for my daily journaling:
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Pen ⟶ geni.us/W6pF3NA
Books that shaped me:
Stoner ⟶ geni.us/0ERey
Attached ⟶ geni.us/5c2izr
Little prince ⟶ geni.us/fRDWat
Quiet ⟶ geni.us/mA1IIcs
Conversations on love ⟶ geni.us/MXC7K
For my complete book recommendation list, go here - www.lanablakely.com/bookclub
Personal email ⟶ hello@lanablakely.com
Business email ⟶ lanablakely@sixteenth.co
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Відео

How to EXIT your lazy & unmotivated era
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ad Head to biosites.com/lanablakely to create your own Bio Site today. Oh and don't forget to check out my BioSites here & let me know what you think of the design!! bio.site/lanablakely Get the book here: geni.us/ZQAGd6 Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction 01:28 - A great productivity tool 03:13 - The illusion of control 05:06 - FOMO 05:38 - The efficiency trap 06:56 - Become a better procrastinator...
Let’s get organised: Starter pack for chaotic people
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ad Try CleanMyMac X with a 7 day-free trial to help your computer work at its fullest potential bit.ly/LanaBlakelyCMMX and buy with a 20% discount with my code LANA20 Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction 00:14 - Steer clear of labels 01:17 - Everything goes in the calendar 02:17 - Keep your mac clean 04:17 - Write everything down 06:23 - Make it more fun 07:06 - Let go of the idea of perfection 08:30...
Getting Back Into My *Hot Girl* Routines
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ad Click my trainwell (formerly CoPilot) link go.trainwell.net/LanaBlakely-cp to get 14 days FREE with your own expert personal trainer! Newsletter ⟶ www.lanablakely.com My podcast ⟶ geni.us/lanablakelypod 🤎 Help support here (if you can) ⟶ www.patreon.com/lanablakely Instagram ⟶ lanablakely Twitter ⟶ lanablakelys Facebook ⟶ lanablakelys TikTok ⟶ www.tikto...
The Lies of Hookup Culture
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#ad Go to betterhelp.com/lana for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction 00:53 - My story 04:14 - Sociosexuality 05:34 - Pseudo-relationships 06:46 - The Big O Gap 07:45 - Loveless sex is not empowering Newsletter ⟶ www.lanablakely.com My podcast ⟶ geni.us/lanablakelypod 🤎 Help support here (if...
He ghosted me.
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Newsletter ⟶ www.lanablakely.com My podcast ⟶ geni.us/lanablakelypod 🤎 Help support here (if you can) ⟶ www.patreon.com/lanablakely Instagram ⟶ lanablakely Twitter ⟶ lanablakelys Facebook ⟶ lanablakelys TikTok ⟶ www.tiktok.com/lanablakely Take my journaling class for free here ⟶ skl.sh/3PTWRP8 What I use to make my videos: Where I get my music ⟶ geni.us/la...
7 Simple Habits for Health & Happiness :)
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Check out shortform and get a free trial and 20% discount at shortform.com/lana Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction 02:19 - Productivity 05:02 - Motion 07:09 - Lagom 08:43 - Fika 09:59 - No shoes in bed 10:19 - Niksen 11:09 - Traditions Newsletter ⟶ www.lanablakely.com My podcast ⟶ geni.us/lanablakelypod 🤎 Help support here (if you can) ⟶ www.patreon.com/lanablakely Instagram ⟶ lanabla...
6 Things That Made Me a Less Anxious Person
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6 Things That Made Me a Less Anxious Person
You're not the *main character*... You're just selfish.
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You're not the *main character*... You're just selfish.
The Lies of Female Friendships, Competition and Jealousy
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The Lies of Female Friendships, Competition and Jealousy
The Epidemic of Feeling Ugly, Lonely and Jealous
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The Epidemic of Feeling Ugly, Lonely and Jealous
The Lies of Modern Friendships, Social Anxiety and Loneliness
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The Lies of Modern Friendships, Social Anxiety and Loneliness
All the difficult things I had to re-learn this year
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All the difficult things I had to re-learn this year
A minimalist guide to a balanced life
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A minimalist guide to a balanced life
6 habits of people who love themselves :)
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6 habits of people who love themselves :)
Every introvert needs to learn this
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Every introvert needs to learn this
Having my last sip of alcohol
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Having my last sip of alcohol
The simplest way to confidence, according to science :)
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The simplest way to confidence, according to science :)
a video to watch when you need to calm down
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a video to watch when you need to calm down
8 Essential *Hot Girl* Habits
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8 Essential *Hot Girl* Habits
I finally bought an apartment in the city
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I finally bought an apartment in the city
So we’ve been dating all wrong, science says.
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So we’ve been dating all wrong, science says.
Things only highly sensitive people understand :')
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Things only highly sensitive people understand :')
Finding Love in the Modern Dating Culture (with Nathaniel Drew)
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Finding Love in the Modern Dating Culture (with Nathaniel Drew)
7 Essential *Healthy Girl* Habits
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7 Essential *Healthy Girl* Habits
13 pieces of advice you didn't ask for but need to hear
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13 pieces of advice you didn't ask for but need to hear
Simple Ideas For People With Social Anxiety
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Simple Ideas For People With Social Anxiety
Should You Live Alone, With Roommates or With a Partner?
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Should You Live Alone, With Roommates or With a Partner?
To anyone dealing with anxiety & insecurities
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To anyone dealing with anxiety & insecurities
Motivation is easy: How to STAY fit and healthy
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Motivation is easy: How to STAY fit and healthy

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  • @constantineandreu9377
    @constantineandreu9377 13 годин тому

    Ick...😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @lilianavazquez7461
    @lilianavazquez7461 21 годину тому

    “Your presence is comforting to someone” and that one got me, thank you for your kind words, I really needed them, I tend to be the type of person that overwhelms herself with thoughts that punish for not doing, or doing something wrong, or that maybe I am just a person passing by the life of others. Maybe that is true, but I would like to think that I was once important to someone, that maybe I was the one for them, that we were once good friends and that they miss my friendship, that maybe I am needed in this world. Regardless of the hurtful and overwhelming feelings I have now and may have later, I am going to find some peace in this life time that makes me think it was all worth the wait and pain.

  • @prajs_007
    @prajs_007 День тому

    ♥️♥️♥️

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  • @lou15176
    @lou15176 День тому

    I’m 48 and have been alone since 2001. I’m used to it now and quite enjoy it. I am a bit concerned though for the younger generation, because the use of technology has lead to an increase in toxic behaviours. Due to this a lot of people have just had enough or are struggling to form relationships and start families (yes humans are social creatures that procreate) this isn’t to bash technology but as a 70’s child I can see how this has happened. It’s sad to read the comments of so many people who are saying “had enough of this etc” especially when they are so young ❤ x

  • @lindarockower6028
    @lindarockower6028 День тому

    Thank you.

  • @kasoncluff-sl5yj
    @kasoncluff-sl5yj День тому

    Bro ever since I’ve moved when I was eleven I moved from a city to a tiny dump town and I’ve just never healed that much mentally

  • @rahima9618
    @rahima9618 День тому

    Nobody will understand. Ever

  • @dheandracelesta
    @dheandracelesta 2 дні тому

    Such an Amazing Video! I relate on a personal level

  • @shaimakamil4077
    @shaimakamil4077 2 дні тому

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  • @aeswkoo
    @aeswkoo 2 дні тому

    I don't know. I always feel like my feelings and emotions aren't valid, so I struggle talking anyone about them, but, I think I don't have friends. I have "friends", but I just can't feel complete with them. I have my bf's friends, but I don't feel welcome. Together with the fact that I struggle with social anxiety, I stopped trying to make friends long ago, I stopped being interested in it, thinking I'm okay by myself. And I am, I'm glad I don't actually mold myself to fit... but I'm tired of being alone. I say I prefer being alone, that's kinda true but, I do want to have true friends, but I can't find them. Maybe I'm the problem. Maybe I'm asking for too much? I just have my bf and I'm thankful bc he's the sweetest boy I ever met, but sadly I developed anxious attachment to him, maybe if I get friends that would go away? I don't know anymore, I'm starting to realize and remember that maybe I was hurt and betrayed several times since I was a child, so now I'm here.

  • @dil-dl7jv
    @dil-dl7jv 2 дні тому

    ı am so ugly ı have no boy friend what must ı do please help me

  • @user-hu7te6uc7j
    @user-hu7te6uc7j 2 дні тому

    Miss 600 hundred dates......are you a lesbo ? For anyone wondering how she could afford an apartment in Stockholm.....she put sweat tears and blood into it......hahahahahhah.......

  • @ayane_m05
    @ayane_m05 2 дні тому

    Sis... thank you so much for this video. I started to cry at the "Gaslighting" part because it's something that happend a lot to me with family members and also in relationships, but I never really paid attention to label what was actually happening. That was so important to me ❤❤

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 3 дні тому

    The only thing I'm giving up on in my life: is the need for specific conditions to be met, in order for me to be RADICALLY HONEST. RADICAL HONESTY is my modus operandi. JOY IS MY PURPOSE. YESHUA IS MY GUIDING LIGHT. 1. Decide who you want to be and BECOME THAT 2. Set FIRM AND CLEAR boundaries 3. Cut out ANYTHING and EVERYTHING that doesn't serve your health and your wealth 4. Take action everyday toward your ideal life/reality 5. Gratitude 6. Master your mind/emotions (do not be a slave to these)! YOU ARE THEIR MASTER! 7. Keep your promises. Treat yourself like the Queen that you are. 8. Learn (and ultimately master) new HEALTHY skills 9. UNDERSTAND: not every man is built to see your value. They are not all capable nor able. 10. Be confident and authentic 11. Create peace around you, and within you 12. NEVER EVER accept anything/anyone that disrespects you and your boundaries 13. Be open to correction and growth and evolution 14. Be the woman God wants you to be and has created you to be A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, period. So... If he ignores me I will step back and he will lose me. I don’t play any of these childish abusive controlling mind-games. I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me, and treats me as the Queen that I AM. Because I am a beautiful and kind and sexy and wise and magical woman: who knows my worth. Period. Whenever you are alone, remind yourself that GOD has sent everyone else away, so that there is only you and him... Do not feel lonely, the entire universe is inside you. YOU ARE THE UNIVERSE IN ECSTATIC MOTION, BABY! Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes... For those who love with their heart and soul there is no such thing as separation. You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens (It is only then, that GOD can truly totally completely fully enter)! Our greatest strength lies in the gentleness and tenderness of our heart. --- Rumi You are constantly being re-born, re-created, re-generated, every moment. No belief is contained, held, or stored anywhere. It might cause a cascade that brings a symptom, breathing patterns, somewhere in the body, but the concepts, thoughts, and stories are constantly being re-created. You are generating it ALL, and this is unconscious. You can change in an instant!!! Every morning you wake up, your life story is re-constructed. Do I have to wake up believing reality is the way I believed it was yesterday? When breathing is restricted, get curious about what is holding it back, when it is open get curious about why that is... YOU are the Artist! Awareness of something alone IS enough, it untangles itself, the knots let go of you. Choose Freedom, take responsibility for your own suffering.

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  • @jesslyn5705
    @jesslyn5705 3 дні тому

    After setting that, So how to respond when we are actually being yelled at

  • @ananyasingh366
    @ananyasingh366 3 дні тому

    not her saying it is applicable to men and then immediately starting off with menstrual cycle!!

  • @ferdinandpe4528
    @ferdinandpe4528 3 дні тому

    Takk.. Godt Poeple’s....

  • @ferdinandpe4528
    @ferdinandpe4528 3 дні тому

    Persona’s Lair’s Always Lair’s to Me. Smil 😔😔😔😔😔😔✝️🛐✝️🛐✝️🛐✝️🛐⛪️🛐⛪️⛪️⛪️⛪️⛪️ I’m Persona’s Med Funksjonshemming/ Disability’s Persona’s.... More Lair’s Effect...

  • @garys-little-corner
    @garys-little-corner 3 дні тому

    Great videography, and a great presentation about being introverted.

  • @markh3376
    @markh3376 3 дні тому

    Look, you are so good

  • @alakirte
    @alakirte 3 дні тому

    Didn’t work, what do I do now?

  • @markh3376
    @markh3376 3 дні тому

    No worries 👍 You trust God care you 🙏 😊

  • @davidoverton4030
    @davidoverton4030 3 дні тому

    Lana, you're so wise, sensible & encouraging. I find your voice so warm & hypnotic. Plus, you're gorgeous. ❤

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  • @MrTimbo1111
    @MrTimbo1111 4 дні тому

    Being loved till the day you die is empowering! Being used as a sexual trash can by worthless convicts (thanks Feminism) and being discarded is not empowering.......go girl

  • @leofuruya
    @leofuruya 4 дні тому

    "Nobody owes you anything"

  • @leofuruya
    @leofuruya 4 дні тому

    Thats more than therapy for me

  • @Medietos
    @Medietos 5 днів тому

    Good to know that soem come for diversion/entertainment or boredom. I presumed everyone was tbhere to actually date and get some kind of relationship/contact.

  • @ThePodWithBailey
    @ThePodWithBailey 5 днів тому

    I LOVE THIS VIDEO, thank you Lana♡ Some of my favorite parts are..." Stores that are open 24 hours a day, knowing that someone will always be there for you" "realizing that around the world, there is probably some other kids that were born in the same hospital as you, even though you might never meet them, you share that same special moment with them, you enter life apart, but together" "the fact that we think the car raindrop game that we used to play was so personal, but knowing that a lot of other kids share that same experience" "no one thinks as badly of you as you do of yourself"

  • @ShreyaThakur0612
    @ShreyaThakur0612 5 днів тому

    Who else is watching from india??

  • @Jyuan315
    @Jyuan315 5 днів тому

    Listen lady, being ghosted is okay, back in 1800's there's no such thing, there's nothing wrong with you or the other guy. It's about choices. It's all about trying, keep trying. Nothing wrong with you, I have a sister and I always tell her that life isn't about a perfect instant spark. It's about continue co-existing in the same damn room together until the day you die. That's what real love is.

  • @ride851
    @ride851 5 днів тому

    🫧

  • @ride851
    @ride851 5 днів тому

    Mature enough to ignore flings.. Immature to balance serious relationship and career.. 🤹‍♂️

  • @ferdinandpe4528
    @ferdinandpe4528 5 днів тому

    I’m Persona’s Med Funksjonshemme/ Disability’s Persona’s lift you behind., It’s Realitys. That’s It’s Truth!!! Shy for them! Smil 😔😔😔😔😔😔... Takk

  • @kitty-pm6mz
    @kitty-pm6mz 5 днів тому

    i disliked this video when you started talking about being skinny bc my body is my biggest insecurity lmao. i removed my dislike and i’ll keep watching

    • @qrpcoaching8198
      @qrpcoaching8198 4 дні тому

      Your body should be complimented by likers and shamers should just not comment. I am sure you are pretty as you are!

  • @alienrobotcommando
    @alienrobotcommando 5 днів тому

    You're awesome!

  • @dahliaabdelrahman238
    @dahliaabdelrahman238 5 днів тому

    Noone could never dislike you ❤

  • @Annabelle99356
    @Annabelle99356 5 днів тому

    Your simplicity and authenticity is what what made us love you. The background music was kinda unnecessary.

  • @kpop-aminav5023
    @kpop-aminav5023 6 днів тому

    عكس شعور مثل ما افكر إذا لي قبلتهم رح يحبوني أو حبوني بعكس شعور وبفكر إذ انا حبيتهم

  • @artistsanomalous7369
    @artistsanomalous7369 6 днів тому

    "What you pay attention to will define what your reality is." I'm pretty sure that's a paraphrase of a quote by Qui-Gon Jinn.

  • @tsuki-san6002
    @tsuki-san6002 6 днів тому

    1:59

  • @kennytheripper2526
    @kennytheripper2526 6 днів тому

    I was absolute living the best in my life while I was all alone, which captivated the attention of my ex, who fell in love with me...but I continued my way Fast forward, 1.5 year later, she broke up with me the 2nd and the final time, leaving me in a state of complete voidness, unable to cry, talk to somebody, talk with girls, parents either, leaving me in the most miserable and pitiful scene I've ever been in my life.

  • @jamescairns7458
    @jamescairns7458 6 днів тому

    i cant believe it how could somebody reject you